Parents must be careful what they say to their children. Their words are so powerfully integrated into the child’s personality that they can affect the whole of the child’s life. When I first went to school, Dad had already been teaching me to read, using the Blue Star Readers that the schools also used in those days. I had no trouble at school at first and enjoyed first year. The only problem was that I did too well in the first test and was second in the class, so dad shared some wisdom about watching I didn’t get a big head, something that could happen to people who were too clever. The boy who came first in the class actually did have a large head so I decided not to be too clever and through some instinct set up a pattern that kept me about tenth in the class from then on and throughout my school life. It is still difficult for me to have the will to be at the top.
How about you? Share your experience of positive or negative, empowering or disempowering parenting. How did you do yourself when you became a parent? How have you overcome negative patterning